11 reasons to use the I Keep Achieving My Goals, but I Still Feel Empty Workbook
If you keep achieving your goals, but still feel empty, you might be wondering why getting what you worked for has not given you the feeling you expected.
This Pattern Recognition Workbook helps you recognise the patterns behind that emptiness, look at what has been driving your achievements and explore what you actually want from the next stage of your life.
Here are 11 practical ways to use the I Keep Achieving My Goals, but I Still Feel Empty workbook as part of your inner work.
1. Give yourself a Saturday morning check-in
On those Saturday mornings when you finally have nowhere to rush to, give yourself permission to think about more than the next goal.
Go to a café. Order your coffee, macchia to or Frappuccino, find a comfortable spot and open the workbook.
Give yourself 30 minutes and work through the Pattern Recognition Matrix. Look at the patterns sitting underneath your achievements. Are you already chasing the next milestone? Do you struggle to enjoy what you have achieved? Has being successful become part of how you prove your value? What keeps moving the finish line?
Notice what comes up when you stop thinking about the next target. Where has the finish line moved again? What have you achieved without giving yourself time to enjoy it? Just you, your drink, your workbook and some proper time with your thoughts. A Saturday morning spent deciding what you actually want next.
2. Make it part of your Sunday new-week reset
Sunday is a good time to notice how quickly your mind moves towards the next thing.
You achieved something you wanted. You reached the target, solved the problem or ticked something important off your list. Yet instead of enjoying where you are, you are already thinking, What is next?
Choose one achievement you have barely stopped to acknowledge. Use the workbook prompts to look at what you expected it to give you, how you actually felt when you got there and why your attention may have already moved on.
Use your Sunday reset to decide what you want this new week to be about beyond achievement. Not another target for the sake of having one. Something that adds meaning, enjoyment or connection to the life you have already built.
3. Use your evening reflection to look beyond achievement
Some evenings, you have had a productive day and still feel strangely unsatisfied. You got things done, made progress and handled what needed handling, yet your mind is already moving towards what you need to achieve next.
Let the day finish. Get comfortable, make your favourite evening drink and give yourself 15 minutes without another goal to chase. Open I Keep Achieving My Goals, but I Still Feel Empty and choose a pattern. What are you chasing right now? What do you hope it will give you? When will you allow yourself to feel like you have done enough?
Your evening does not need to become another productivity exercise. Use this time to notice what achievement cannot give you and what might be missing from the life around it.
4. Reach for it during a 4 a.m. spiral
You have achieved things you once really wanted. From the outside, there may be plenty of evidence that your life is moving forward.
Then 4 a.m. arrives and your mind starts asking the questions you can avoid when you are busy.
“Why am I still not happy?” “Was this supposed to feel different?” “What am I even chasing now?”
Use the workbook to recognise when one difficult moment is pulling you back onto the same thinking Roundabout. Remind yourself of what has been going well, what you have already achieved and the evidence that your life is more than the next thing you accomplish.
One setback does not get to predict what happens next. Find the nearest exit.
5. Focus on the Orange when you start to feel anxious
At Grid Society, we have a saying: Orange Tales Only. It means being intentional about the story you tell yourself, but we take it a little further. Visualise orange tales and tell yourself orange tales.
When an achievement does not give you the feeling you expected, go back through the workbook and focus on the Orange sections. Use them to think beyond the next goal. What would make your life feel richer? What do you want more time for? Who do you want around you? What could fulfilment look like beyond another achievement?
You do not need to dismiss everything you have achieved. Let your success become part of the story, not the entire story.
6. Track the changes that are difficult to see
The beauty of this workbook is that it gives you somewhere to record changes that might not show up on a goals list.
Use the Pattern Recognition Matrix to come back to a particular pattern from day to day, week to week or even months later and notice whether your relationship with achievement is beginning to change.
You might notice that you are enjoying what you have already achieved for longer, giving more attention to your relationships or no longer rushing to replace one completed goal with another.
Over time, you have a record of changes that another milestone could never measure.
7. See what the pattern can look like at different life stages
The Life on the Grid section gives you a chance to read about the problem using our metaphor. Step outside of your feelings for a moment and focus on the pattern itself.
1. What life looks like when achievement has become your measure of progress
2. What it can look like during a 4 a.m. spiral
3. What changes when you start questioning what you are chasing
4. What life can look like when success is no longer the only measure
Sometimes removing yourself from the centre of the problem makes it easier to recognise what has been driving you, why the next achievement keeps calling and what you might actually want more of.
8. Ask yourself different questions.
If you keep asking yourself “What do I need to achieve next?” or “Why does this still not feel like enough?” you can end up looking for another goal to answer a question that achievement cannot solve.
The prompts inside the I Keep Achieving My Goals, but I Still Feel Empty workbook give you different questions to ask yourself, helping you look beyond what you have achieved and explore what you actually want from your life now.
You might recognise that the goalposts keep moving. An achievement you once desperately wanted has already been replaced by another target. Sometimes a different question is all it takes to start noticing what achievement has not been able to give you.
9. Give your journalling a new lease of life
If you are tired of traditional journalling, or you want to journal but never know what to write, use the Grid Society concepts to get creative with it. Bring in our Grid Life colours, places, moods and emotions. Create your own affirmations, new sayings and personal reminders inspired by the Grid Society concepts.
For Volume 7, you could take the feeling of “I have achieved so much, so why do I still feel empty?” and turn it into something new. Create language for the life you want beyond achievement. Give that next version of your life its own mood, colour, places and words.
Create your own affirmations and sayings: “My life is full.” “I am more than my achievements.” “I enjoy the life I have built.” “There is more to me than what I accomplish.” “Success is part of my life, not all of it.” “I can be proud of what I have achieved and still make room for everything else.”
Let your journalling become a place where you practise seeing beyond your current circumstances. Give yourself room to expect, explore and imagine again.
10. Use it as a starting point before seeking professional support
Sometimes achieving the things you wanted and still feeling empty can leave you with questions you cannot easily answer on your own. You may want to explore why reaching another milestone never seems to feel like enough, what has been driving you for so long or what fulfilment means to you beyond achievement.
Use the workbook to start identifying the thoughts, behaviours, situations and patterns that keep coming up for you. It can help you put some of what you have been experiencing into words, so if you decide to speak to a counsellor, therapist or another appropriate professional, you already have somewhere to start the conversation.
11. Use the workbook concepts in real life
Use the whole workbook as an inspiration platform and take the Grid concepts into your everyday thinking.
1. Stay off the Grey Grid
Notice when your thinking starts telling you that another achievement is the only thing that will make you feel fulfilled.
2. Find the nearest exit
When you catch yourself immediately chasing the next milestone, pause long enough to ask what you actually need right now.
3. Make Gridmoves
Make room for the parts of your life that have nothing to prove. Enjoy something, connect with someone or do something simply because you want to.
4. Orange tales only
Build a bigger story around success. Your achievements can matter without becoming the only measure of how good your life is.
These are more than concepts. They give you something familiar to come back to when your mind automatically turns life into another target to reach.
At work, at home or while planning what comes next, use the concepts to remind yourself that achievement can remain important without having to be everything.
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The Grid Society concept and Universal Grid™ were created by E. Lee and Dr N. Michelle to provide a structured framework and original lexicon for understanding thinking patterns and behaviours, and acting on them positively in real time. The Universal Grid™ incorporates the Grey Grid™, the Green Grid™ and the Orange Grid™, together with all associated frameworks, principles, concepts, terminology and methodologies. All original content and supporting materials are the intellectual property of Grid Society. All rights reserved.
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