6 comparison quotes for when you are starting to feel envious and resentful
Updated: 21 hours ago
Sometimes we have to be honest.
We look around and it feels like
everyone is getting ahead while we are standing still.
We start comparing where we are to where they are, and before long, those thoughts can turn into jealousy and even resentment towards the world.
Why them? Why not me?
If your mind is heading there, here are 6 comparison quotes to help interrupt that thinking and bring your attention back to your own life.
Inspired by Pattern Recognition Volume One
These quotes were inspired by Pattern Recognition Volume One: I Feel Like I’m Behind Compared to My Friends.
Sometimes you wake up and the Grey Voices are already loud. Other times, something triggers you during the day. You see someone else winning,
achieving something you want or simply appearing further ahead, and suddenly comparison takes over.
“Some days those Grey Voices get so loud that it becomes difficult to reason your way out of them or fight back with a better thought.”
That is when you need something simple to come back to
Here are 6 comparison quotes to help you interrupt the noise, challenge the comparison and bring your attention back to you.
When your mind starts comparing and triggering you with comparative thoughts, the place you are trying to reach is I am enough.
What I have done is enough. Who I am is enough. What I am going to do is enough.
Think of it as a past, present and future process of thinking.
That is not an emotion you magically summon from somewhere inside yourself. It is something you have to work on, reinforce and return to, especially when comparison is continually telling you otherwise.
The goal is to reach a place where I am enough becomes your resting place rather than something you are trying to convince yourself of.
This is where comparison starts to loosen its grip and joy begins.
You finally achieve something you have been working towards. You should be enjoying it. Then you look sideways.
Someone has achieved more. They got there faster. Their announcement looks bigger. Suddenly, the milestone you were proud of five minutes ago does not feel like enough.
That is comparison stealing your milestone.
Your achievement did not become smaller because somebody else achieved something too. You allowed comparison to change how you saw it.
Learn to stop at your own milestones.
Acknowledge them. Celebrate them. Let them count.
Someone else’s progress does not get to rewrite the meaning of yours.
Comparison is very good at keeping a record of everybody else’s wins while conveniently forgetting your own.
That is why you have to do the maths.
Start tallying the small wins. The thing you finished. The decision you finally made. The boundary you kept. The money you saved. The idea you acted on. The tiny bit of progress nobody else noticed.
Accumulate. Validate. Celebrate.
One small win might not feel significant on its own, but keep adding them together and you start seeing something comparison was preventing you from seeing: you are moving forward too.
Do not wait for one enormous achievement before you allow yourself to feel proud of your progress.
Tally the wins. They count.
QUOTE 4:
FOMO means Focusing On My Own
VOL 1
FOMO traditionally means Fear Of Missing Out. It is that uncomfortable feeling that other people are experiencing, achieving or enjoying something that you are missing.
It is that uncomfortable feeling that other people are experiencing, achieving or enjoying something that you are missing.
That feeling can intensify comparison. You start looking at what everyone else is doing, where they are going, what they have achieved and whether you should be there too. Before long, your attention has moved away from your own life and onto theirs.
So let us give F.O.M.O. another meaning: Focusing On My Own...
Then fill in the blank.
My own business. My own health. My own family. My own finances. My own goals. My own next move. Whatever needs more of your attention than somebody else’s life does.
You do not have unlimited attention. Every minute spent watching, analysing and comparing is attention you could be putting back into something that belongs to you.
Focusing On My Own...
What are you putting in the blank?
Stop reading their winning chapter. Comparison has a habit of making you fixate on the part of somebody else’s life where everything appears to be going right.
Their promotion. Their relationship. Their business. Their money. Their opportunity. Their big announcement.
Meanwhile, you can become so absorbed in their winning chapter that you stop paying attention to the story you are still writing.
Their chapter is not your ending.
Bring your attention back to your own Grid. There are decisions to make, ideas to act on, opportunities to create and chapters of your own that have not even been written yet.
Stop reading their winning chapter.
Your winning story is waiting.
This is when you start talking back to the Grey Voice.
Sometimes that voice is internal. It is your own mind telling you that you are behind, somebody else is doing better or you should have achieved more by now.
Other times, it comes from outside of you. Someone makes a comment, questions your progress or tries to measure your life against somebody else’s.
Either way, you do not have to accept their version of your story.
You can answer back: I am not behind. I am becoming. I am building. I am blossoming. I am bettering.
This is Orange Tales Only. You decide what story gets repeated internally and what stories you allow other people to tell about your life.
6 quotes, 6 ways to interrupt comparison
I am enough
→ Remember that what you have done, who you are and what you are going to do is enough.
Comparison can steal your milestone
→ Do not let somebody else’s success make your own progress feel smaller.
Tally your small wins
→ Accumulate, validate and celebrate the evidence that you are moving forward.
FOMO means Focusing On My Own
→ Bring your attention away from everybody else and back to your own life.
What’s my next chapter?
→ Stop reading their winning chapter. Your winning story is waiting.
Oh no darling, I’m not behind
→ Talk back to the Grey Voice and refuse to accept somebody else’s version of your progress.
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