What are the stages of personal growth? 4 states. 4 easy breakdowns. The Grid Society way. (Based on Quote 47)

Team Gridmoves
Oct 1
7 min read

Updated: Oct 3

Ask Google “What are the stages of personal growth?” and you will find all sorts of diagrams, wheels, and generic self-help language. But inside Grid Society, growth is not presented as a cycle or concept. It is a state. A location. A real emotional place you pass through.

We do not just speak about growth. We track it. We name it. We live it. There are three clear states in the personal growth journey:

The Grey State: Where you recognise you are stuck and begin separating yourself from it.

The Owning State: Where you take full responsibility for what happens next.

The Thriving State: Where you recognise that you are living what you once defined as growth.

Each one has its own energy, challenges, and decision points. Here is what they really mean, the Grid Society way.

Infographic showing the three stages of personal growth as defined by Grid Society: grey (at times), owning who you are, and recognising when you are thriving. Visual breakdown of the word “growth” using the letters GR, OW, and TH, each linked to its emotional state.

Dramatic photo of a person kneeling alone in a dark space, illuminated by bright white backlighting. The figure is bowed forward, representing emotional exhaustion and the moment of confronting inner Grey.

1. GREY: WHERE GROWTH BEGINS...

This is where I am

No one talks about this part enough, yet this is exactly where growth begins.

It is not a glamorous or energising place. It is heavy, unclear, and emotionally draining. Grey is not a vibe or a personality trait. It is a trap, a mental and emotional state that keeps you circling the same thoughts, habits, and pain without resolution. You feel stuck. You want to change. Yet your own patterns seem stronger than your desire to move forward.

Grey is where you know something needs to shift, but you cannot find the energy or clarity to make it happen. It is where you feel tired of your own voice, exhausted by your own excuses, but unable to break the loop. This stage is often mislabelled as laziness or avoidance, when in truth, it is emotional congestion. You are not unwilling to grow. You are overwhelmed by the weight of everything unresolved.

You are on the Grey Grid when you find yourself experiencing:

Repetitive spirals
Internal tantrums
Unexplained delays
Excessive overthinking
Crying, shutting down, or stalling
Believing your own excuses

Many people stay here for months, sometimes years, without realising they are in the Grey. The first sign of growth is not action. It is recognition. Once you can name this state for what it is, you begin to see yourself more clearly. You stop performing. You stop pretending it is fine. You face the discomfort head-on and quietly admit, “This is where I am.”

That moment of honesty is the beginning of movement. Not because everything is fixed, but because you finally acknowledge that something must change. Growth begins the moment you say: I do not want to stay here.

2. GREY: WHERE GROWTH DEEPENS

I do not want to stay here.

Grey is the point where you stop pretending it is fine. You are no longer just experiencing the spiral, you are observing it. This is the shift from being in it to being aware of it. Something clicks. You know this cannot continue.

You start to see the truth of your situation:

You become tired of your own cycles
You become honest about what is no longer working
You stop glamorising chaos and confusion
You acknowledge that something must change

These are not surface-level thoughts. They are hard-earned recognitions. You are finally facing the part of yourself that wants more — and for the first time, you are listening.

That shift from denial into clarity is the true beginning of growth. You cannot leave a place you are unwilling to admit you are in.

2. OWNING: GROWTH DEPENDS ON ME

Green is the state where you begin to reclaim responsibility, not for what happened to you, but for what happens next.

Aerial photograph of an open green landscape with winding white paths connecting scattered small houses. Symbolises the internal pathwork of personal responsibility and choosing your next move in life.

This is the moment you realise that the state of your life, your peace, your direction, and your future belong to you now. No one is coming to save you. No one else is to blame for how you choose to move forward.

Owning is the stage of active accountability. It is not performative. It is private. This is where you stop outsourcing your power and start stepping directly into it.

Here is what owning looks like:

You take responsibility for how long you have stayed stuck
You stop blaming others for your current state
You accept that your next chapter must be authored by you
You begin to take small, deliberate, consistent Gridmoves

You also begin to own your past without shame. You own your present without excuses. Most powerfully, you own your ability to change without needing validation, apology, or permission. Growth becomes yours because responsibility has become yours.

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3. THRIVING: WHEN GROWTH IS RECOGNISED

Thriving is not an accident. It is not luck. It is not a surprise. It is the natural result of moving through the Grey, and owning your shift in the Green.

Panoramic photo of a golden sunrise casting warm light over a city skyline. Symbolises clarity, alignment, and the calm recognition that growth has arrived. Used to represent the Thriving stage in the Grid Society framework.

You recognise you are thriving because you already defined what thriving would look and feel like. You named it long before you reached it. You mapped it out. You said to yourself, “When I feel this… when I act like this… when I stop chasing and start being - that will be my version of thriving.” So when it arrives, you notice it. You honour it.

This stage is not about showing off. It is about recognising alignment. You are no longer operating from fear or lack. You are not performing growth. You are simply living it.

You know you are thriving when:

Your nervous system feels calmer
You enjoy your own company
Your decisions are rooted, not reactive
You are no longer triggered by old dynamics
You have stopped auditioning for love
You know what enough looks like

This is not the end of growth. It is the stabilisation of it.

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So what are the stages of personal growth?

Not abstract ideas. Not trendy jargon. Not shallow self-help trends. They are emotional states. And every one of them matters.

Grey is when you recognise that you are stuck. Owning is when you accept that no one else is responsible for your next move. Thriving is when you start to see what you once prayed for and you do not dismiss it.

At Grid Society, we name these states because we believe growth should be visible, trackable, and structured. You do not need to guess whether you are growing. You can see it.

Three states. One direction.

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